When I wake up earlier than you and you
are turned to face me, face
on the pillow and hair spread around,
I take a chance and stare at you,
amazed in love and afraid
that you might open your eyes and have
the daylights scared out of you.
But maybe with the daylights gone
you’d see how much my chest and head
implode for you, their voices trapped
inside like unborn children fearing
they will never see the light of day.
The opening in the wall now dimly glows
its rainy blue and gray. I tie my shoes
and go downstairs to put the coffee on.
~ Ron Padgett
painting: KAREN BARBOUR
Labels: Malcolm Gladwell
Times are difficult globally;
awakening is no longer a luxury or an ideal.
It’s becoming critical.
We don’t need to add more depression,
or more anger to what’s already here.
It’s becoming essential that we learn how
to relate sanely with difficult times.
The earth seems to be beseeching us
to connect with joy and discover our innermost essence.
This is the best way that we can benefit others.
~ Pema Chodron
Labels: PEMA CHODRON
You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes,
who has problems with closet space because she has too many books.
Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read,
who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads.
You’ll know that she does because she will always have
an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking
over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out
when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick
sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop?
That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages,
especially when they are yellow and worn.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street.
If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating
on top because she’s kind of engrossed already.
Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down.
She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like
to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami.
See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship.
Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses
she’s just saying that to sound intelligent.
Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday,
for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words,
in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings.
Let her know that you understand that words are love.
Understand that she knows the difference between books
and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little
like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her.
If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie.
Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue.
It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure
always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read
understand that all things must come to end,
but that you can always write a sequel.
That you can begin again and again and still be the hero.
That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not?
Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop.
Except in the Twilight series.