MAD Missives

ELUSIVE : Who is Elena Ferrante?

MAD Crush: Lena Dunham, Difficult Girl

Social Studies: Marlene Dumas

drawing: ROSE WYLIE

The Point is To Have FUN!

Him + Her
Bridgehampton, 2013


Almost as good as our acro yoga . . . "-)

The Shells of Sagaponack



We’re encouraged to meditate every day, 
even for a short time, in order to cultivate 
steadfastness with ourselves. 
We sit under all kinds of circumstances—
whether we are feeling healthy or sick, 
whether we’re in a good mood or depressed, 
whether we feel our meditation is going well 
or is completely falling apart. As we continue to sit 
we see that meditation isn’t about getting it right 
or attaining some ideal state. It’s about being able 
to stay present with ourselves. It becomes increasingly clear 
that we won’t be free of self-destructive patterns 
unless we develop a compassionate understanding 
of what they are.

~ Pema Chodron

MAD about Michelle Rogers Pritzl

"Those Whose Hands and Hearts are Pure is a metaphor 
for the psychological damage inflicted on young women 
through Evangelical Christian purity culture. 
Through Victorian notions of patriarchy, young women are taught 
to submit, to be ashamed of themselves, their bodies, 
their dreams and ultimately to exist for the sake 
of the husband they will serve. In these self-portraits 
I play a character that performs or endures tasks 
which represent the inner workings of the psychological 
damage inflicted by these beliefs. This series tells the story 
of withstanding oppression and breaking free, 
although a theme of domination over the female character 
is woven into the images. This subtle reference symbolizes 
not only the way that bullied children hear taunts forever, 
but also subverts the intent of the Fundamentalist mindset 
and the control they seek over women. 

Each image is a 16 × 20 tintype, printed with a transparency 
in the darkroom, in a unique edition of 5. 
My digital workflow combined with the antique media 
of collodion references the antiquated view of women 
through the photographic process itself."

~ via Lenscratch

TWO YEARS Since We Ran Off to VEGAS!

. . . and it's the beat that my heart skips
when I'm with you


BIG Love

MAD Missives

Brene Brown: On Choosing COURAGE

GMOs : Seeds of Doubt

Unbearable : RIP, James Foley

The Vacationers : Who is Emma Straub?



Each time you meet an old emotional pattern with presence, 
your awakening to truth can deepen. 
There’s less identification with the self 
in the story and more ability to rest in the awareness 
that is witnessing what’s happening. 
You become more able to abide in compassion, 
to remember and trust your true home. 
Rather than cycling repetitively through old conditioning, 
you are actually spiraling toward freedom.

~ Tara Brach

Water Mill Windmills

The more we connect with a bigger perspective, 
the more we connect with energetic joy. 
Exertion is connecting with our appetite for enlightenment. 
It allows us to act, to give, to work appreciatively 
with whatever comes our way. If we really knew how unhappy 
it was making this whole planet that we all try 
to avoid pain and seek pleasure—how that is making 
us so miserable and cutting us off from our basic goodness
—then we would practice as if our hair were on fire. 
There wouldn’t be any question of thinking we have 
a lot of time and we can do this later.

Yet when we begin to practice exertion, we see that sometimes 
we can do it and sometimes we can’t. The question becomes: 
How do we connect with inspiration? 
How do we connect with the spark and joy 
that’s available in every moment? 

~ Pema Chodron

The problem is there is no problem and
the problem solvers have nothing to do
so they start creating problems out
of thin air, out of nothing. Then the problem
is not to see that there are big problems
everywhere and it is woe unto
him or her who cannot see or who will
not acknowledge the problems—they become
part of the problem, a big part of it,
their apathy or obstinacy holding
progress back until they are educated
to the fact that, one, there are big problems,
and, two, if you are not part of solving
them then you represent the problem
the problem solvers have been talking about
all along. So you see now how it is:
there is no problem worse than no problem.

~ Kevin McCaffrey
from Laughing Cult

painting: CY TWOMBLY

MAD Inspiration: Jose Parla at The 11th Havana Biennale

It's been much too long since my last visit to Havana.
Always on my mind, but mysteriously so far away in my reality.

This work is truly moving and inspiring. Watching
the film depicting so many of the familiar faces, sounds, 
and street scapes of Havana stirs similar faces, sounds and memories
of my childhood and makes me miss my parents in a 
completely different way.

THANK goodness for artists!

Learn more about Jose Parla here.

~ Gabrielle Hamilton in Cherry Bombe

Hamptons Happiness

And just like that . . . We're BACK!

Somebody stole my hat.




MAD Missives

we've gotta lift WEIGHTS, Whippers!

LISTEN: Ray LaMontagne's SUPERNOVA + Ojai

BEST Banana Bread

it's pretty complicated

Who is Betty Fussell?


Aging is the New Age

O Captain! My Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weather'd every rack, the prize we sought is won;
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring:
But O heart! heart! heart!
O the bleeding drops of red,
Where on the deck my Captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
O Captain! My Captain! rise up and hear the bells;
Rise up—for you the flag is flung—for you the bugle trills;
For you bouquets and ribbon'd wreaths—for you the shores a-crowding;
For you they call, the swaying mass, their eager faces turning;
Here captain! dear father!
This arm beneath your head;
It is some dream that on the deck,
You've fallen cold and dead.
My Captain does not answer, his lips are pale and still;
My father does not feel my arm, he has no pulse nor will;
The ship is anchor'd safe and sound, its voyage closed and done;
From fearful trip, the victor ship, comes in with object won;
Exult, O shores, and ring, O bells!
But I, with mournful tread,
Walk the deck my captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.

~ Walt Whitman

September 2012

{right after our secret exchange of vows in Vegas!}


MAD Laughs

via PLar

LOVE is the Only Way

What Gorgeous Thing: Mary Oliver

I do not know what gorgeous thing
       the bluebird keeps saying,
his voice easing out of his throat,
       beak, body into the pink air
of the early morning. I like it
       whatever it is. Sometimes
it seems the only thing in the world
       that is without dark thoughts.
Sometimes it seems the only thing
       in the world that is without
questions that can't and probably
       never will be answered, the
only thing that is entirely content
       with the pink, then clear white
morning and, gratefully, says so.

~ Mary Oliver


MAD About: Heddy Maalem

What do you do when you're unhappy?

Sit quietly for a few minutes and become mindful 
of your breath as it goes in and out. 
Then contemplate what you do when you’re unhappy 
or dissatisfied and want to feel better. 
Even make a list if you want to. 
Then ask yourself: Does it work? Has it ever worked? 
Does it soothe the pain? 
Does it escalate the pain? 
If you’re really honest, you’ll come up with 
some pretty interesting observations. 

~ Pema Chodron

Getting DOWN with Stella

RIP, Robin Williams

So saddened by the loss of this
enormous heart.

I often think about this scene from one of my favourite films
and how powerful these words were/are.

Rest in Peace, Sweet Soul.

MAD about Marla Baggetta





Looking forward to taking a workshop with 
the incredible Marla Baggetta soon!


BRUNO, 2014

12 x 12
mixed media on canvas

The Sato Project

A little bit of recognition
for a lot of heart breaking, hard work . . . .


There are a lot of candles out there,
but Diptyque is by far my favourite, 
especially this gorgeous large version
that lasts forever and makes my home feel 
sexier than it already is!

Too hot to paint.
Palette dries faster than my brain can think . . . .



12 x 16
mixed media on wood

MAD Missives

more reasons to LOVE Lena Dunham

Patti Smith reviews Haruki Murakami

"inhabiting the most exaggerated, implausible distortion
of your position, in order to show that it's ridiculous"

painting: JEMIMA KIRKE


Bryant Park, NYC
Summer 2013



CAKE, 2014

10 x 10
mixed media on wood

MAD About : Raquel Allegra

Everything is Waiting for You

Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden transgressions.
To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice. You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease
into the conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.

~ David Whyte

painting: GIGI MILLS

Virginia Mae turns SEVENTEEN

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Gin Gin Barrios.
That's 119 in puppy years!

You're almost completely deaf, 
and your vision is seriously diminished,
but you killed it on that 2.5 hour hike the other morning 
and you still have your starving street dog appetite
so we'll see what the universe has in store for you, my little rascal.